The structure that works
Opening (30 seconds) — introduce yourself and your relationship to the couple. Story (2–3 minutes) — one specific memory that illuminates a quality of the person being toasted. The couple (30 seconds) — why they are right for each other, briefly and sincerely. Toast (15 seconds) — a sentence, raise glass. Total: 3–4 minutes maximum.
The stories that work
Specific, visual, and revealing a truth about the person. Not chronological ('I met X at school and then...') but a single scene, described well. The best wedding speech stories make the person laugh in recognition. Avoid any story that requires explanation of context — if you need to set it up for more than 15 seconds, choose another story.
What not to say
Anything that the person (or their parents) would prefer not said in public. Anything about previous relationships. Anything about the speech being something you hate doing. Anything that goes on so long it becomes about you. The test: would the person giving the speech be comfortable with every word being reported in a newspaper?
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| Book | How to Write a Wedding Speech guide UK | Speech guide | Check price → |
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| Cards | Wedding speech prompt cards set printed | Prompt cards | Check price → |
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